The art of living life to the fullest…


Carolina_Spring_Beauty__Claytonia_caroliniana_800This entry is about an incredible blog written by Carolyn Frayn. Carolyn is the sister of the very talented Julie Frayn whose novels [easyazon-link asin=”0991851013″ locale=”us”]Suicide City, a Love Story[/easyazon-link] and [easyazon-link asin=”099185103X” locale=”us”] It Isn’t Cheating if He’s Dead[/easyazon-link] have received rave reviews on this site. Her blog is about the art of living when you know you’re dying.


Today at the grocery store, my 11-year-old daughter and I were loading bags into our car when an elderly woman in a car nearby called me over. I walked to the window and she reached out and took my hand patting it gently and said to me, “You are such a nice lady”. I smiled and thanked her and then walked back to my car and thought about Carolyn. Could someone looking at her know the struggle within. That’s the magic of blogs. They allow you intimate access to a struggle. The good days, the bad days and the times when a person might most need that pat on the hand or extra encouragement. Carolyn Frayn is a daughter, a sister, a mother and a woman dying of breast cancer.

Few people can say that they haven’t been touched by cancer. Family members, friends, children – the dread disease is no respecter of persons. When it comes into our lives we feel so alone and its brave people like Carolyn Frayn who post their experiences like a family meal to which cancer wasn’t invited and her experience moves the reader. We are never alone.

Frayn chronicles her highs, lows and life’s random experiences. Her blog is beautifully written. Like her sister, Carolyn Frayn has a gift for investing depth in language. Her entries read like that song that touched your heart. Carolyn’s blog is a gift. Reading it led tears to fall, as they are now, but it also led the heart to hope. Hope for and remembrance of those loved ones who have fallen to the dread disease. Aunt LaDonna and cousin Nate. Those who have struggled or continue to struggle, like my mom and my Grandma who at the age of 23 received a diagnosis of breast cancer and chose to have a double mastectomy.  To believe in a silver lining. Life may be short. We could be hit by a bus tomorrow but life is what we make it and Carolyn is making art. Carolyn sub-titles her blog, “The art of living and dying while keeping them separate.” Can it be done? Check it out and see what Carolyn thinks.

I urge everyone to read . Follow Carolyn, like her on Facebook, follow her on Twitter and check out her art. Support this great Canadian artist.

Carolyn Frayn

Read with tears… Your Mother and your Grandmother, both with this horrid disease, the growing connections we find continues to amaze me. Your Grandmothers decision was a brave one, I’m proud to know of her through your writing. Thank you Tammy, you are most kind, I will cherish your words, always.

Nancy's Point

I follow Carolyn’s blog and I agree with your assessment. It is a gift indeed. She writes eloquently and truthfully from her heart. Her photos are pretty amazing as well. Guess I should think about reading some of her sister’s work too! Thanks for this.

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